Judith Ashley

Judith M. Ashley


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Judith M. Ashley’s son calls her an ‘enlightened gypsy’. Perhaps this is partly due to the fact that in her professional career as a human resources consultant Judith worked in eleven countries, five of which she was fortunate enough to live in — England, where she was born and grew up; France; Switzerland; the Bahamas, and the United States.

During her years serving clients in the American high tech industry, Judith applied her expertise in many culturally diverse environments: Israel, Malaysia, California, Spain, Sweden, and Germany —to name just a few.
As a global diversity strategist Judith designed and facilitated management education programs focused on appreciating the uniqueness of each individual, improving employee relations, and the bottom line.
The exposure to so much diversity gave Judith a broad perspective on humanity and many skills; yet when she became the primary caregiver to her terminally ill mother, she found that the skills and perspectives she had gained were not all that was needed to serve her dying mother’s needs. Judith wrote Into the Silence: The Power of Stillness in Living and Dying to honor her remarkable mother’s approach to live and death, and to share what she considers is the really essential aspect of giving truly compassionate care - STILLNESS.

Into the Silence: The Power of Stillness in Living and Dying

Judith M. Ashley
iUniverse (2007)
ISBN 9780595440856
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (12/07)

Synopsis: "I was by her hospital bed when the surgeon gave his prognosis of 'about a year.' Mother turned to me. Looking directly into my eyes, she reached gently for my hand, and said, with such simplicity, 'Judith, I'm going to need your help.'"

So begins the remarkable journey of two women. Judith Ashley had long ago emigrated from England to the United States. Her mother, Enid, still lived in Great Britain and was now dying of cancer of the bowel and liver. Separated by distance for virtually thirty years, Judith traveled back to England to fulfill a promise made two decades earlier - to be the primary caregiver throughout her mother's last weeks of life.

In more than fifty letters written to her husband living six thousand miles away, Ashley recounts - with love and unflinching candor - the conscious way in which her mother approached the last year of her life with dignity, intimacy, and grace. The letters also show how Ashley navigated her way through her own chattering thoughts and roller-coaster emotions to help her have access to an inner source of strength and keep her promise. A moving testament to the strong bond between mother and daughter," Into the Silence" beautifully captures one family's enduring spirit.